Housing market’s big secret
“If you go on the real estate websites, instead of prices, you keep seeing the words “price withheld” and “contact agent”. It is pretty easy to find out what prices were in 2017. But finding out what is happening now? Hard.”
“But all in all, across Australia, good fresh information on sales near you can be hard to get. That makes life very tough for anyone trying to buy or sell property, and at this time of year, that is a lot of people.”
Sometimes it’s hard to figure out what you’re worth.
And it can feel safer to undervalue ourselves.
To attribute our success to luck. Rather than our own intrinsic skills.
But one way to figure out your value…
(or the value of skills you have)
… is to see what you’re worth to other people.
That’s why people check out house prices in a neighbourhood.
If they see what other people have paid, that’s a hint to what it’s worth.
A hint to the value that other people see in something.
And the value it truly has.
Here’s an example from my professional musician life.
Back in my more perfectionistic days, I mistook the value I placed on my performance, with the value for the audience.
But sometimes my disappointing performances…
… were in fact a BLAST for the audience!
This mismatch between performer and audience reaction fascinated me.
So I sought to further understand.
Over time, I understood the value of my performances WEREN’T about how perfect they were.
The true value lay in other things…
… maybe I reminded someone of their wife who played the piano…
… maybe they liked the story I told before I played the music…
… maybe they enjoyed my over-the-top facial expressions…
… or maybe they enjoyed the excitement the music brought them.
How do I know this?
Because when someone mentioned they loved my performance, I asked them why.
(I’m confronting like that.)
Learning about the value other people placed on my performances…
… was FAR more informative than my own opinions.
It gave me an idea of the TRUE value of my music.
It also shredded my sometimes selfish sense of ‘am I good enough?’.
Don’t get me wrong. I still do wonder about being good enough to do something.
But I know there’s more to the story.
Instead, I focus more on what’s important: Do I have value? Can I PROVIDE value?
And you know what? Sometimes OTHER people can answer that question better than you do.
Especially if you falsely believe you’re an imposter. A fraud who’s not as good as other people think.
So think back to all the times someone has praised you…
… or recognised you with an award…
… or had high expectations for you…
… and ask yourself:
Is what they say a HINT to my TRUE value?
Even if you don’t believe the hype about yourself…
… is the hype a HINT to your true value?
About traits you didn’t realise are actually VALUABLE to others?
About the skills you really do possess?
I’ll hazard a guess that the answer is YES.
Use your imposter syndrome to your advantage!
The next time someone praises or awards you, and you doubt what they say…
… take that as a cue to then explore further, about your true value.
Follow those hints, follow those clues.
Follow them like an obsessed bloodhound.
And I suspect you’ll the best version of yourself along the way.
I don’t know about you, but I find that idea exciting.
I think we’re all hoping to find the best version of ourselves.
Or at least a better one.
And why not start with finding out the value we give to others?
The value YOU give to others?
That’s all from me for today.
Best wishes, and take care,
Screenshot proof below:
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Taken 2018-11-03 at 11.32.27 pm