Day 26 of the ‘30 Ways To Play With Your Imposter Syndrome’ Challenge.
Some of you might I have noticed I didn’t mention Thanksgiving until now.
But fear not. I’m no November Scrooge (I think).
I’m just Australian. We don’t have Thanksgiving here.
To be honest it passed me by without me really noticing.
Black Friday did not (I’m not sure what that says about me or the marketing).
But hope you had a happy Thanksgiving anyway!
Do you ever WANT your imposter syndrome to be right?
Why we need house price ‘crash’
“We’ve all seen the worrying headlines — house prices are falling, with tens of thousands of dollars wiped off the values of homes across the country.
In fact, we’ve been in panic mode for much of 2018 as Sydney and Melbourne’s housing industry in particular took hit after hit.”
“Those figures seem pretty scary on paper.
But isn’t this what we actually wanted to happen all along?”
“Not too long ago, the focus was on the struggling first homebuyers being priced out of the market by cashed-up, greedy investors in our biggest cities and demands for action on housing affordability.
But while buying property in Sydney and Melbourne today is far from a cakewalk, there are clear signs things are improving for potential buyers.”
There are two sides at war here.
Home owners wants house prices to stay high.
And houses to get more valuable.
Home buyers wants house prices to drop.
And become more affordable.
And if you’re both… you probably have mixed feelings.
What about your imposter syndrome?
Are you in two minds?
Do you want to be as good as other people think you are?
But do you also kinda… not?
Let me explain.
If imposter syndrome is a fear of being exposed as a fraud, because you don’t believe in your accomplishments…
… is there some part of you which hopes you ARE a fraud?
That you’re really not as good as other people think?
You might ask: Who would actually WANT that?
Let me use myself as an example.
I’ve had times where NOT believing in my own abilities felt like the easier option.
Sometimes it’s easier to keep expectations down, from myself and others.
It meant less risk of disappointment.
It meant I didn’t have any potential to try and live up to.
I meant I had an excuse not to try.
As stressful as imposter syndrome can be… sometimes it’s the EASY option.
Not believing in myself means I don’t have to force myself to grow.
That I can stay the same.
That I shouldn’t take risks.
Plus, imposter syndrome allows me a weird ‘out’ if I fail.
I get to say ‘I told you so’ to myself, if I fail.
I get to say to myself that I already predicted I wasn’t up to the task after all.
Hearing ‘I told you so’ from someone else isn’t fun.
Saying that to someone else is more satisfying.
But being both the person who says it and the person who receives it at the same time?
It’s oddly satisfying sometimes when your low expectations are met though.
Some schools of thought advise you to keep expectations low, to lead a happy life.
And to be honest, I feel at a loss for today’s post.
I’ve tried to end most of these emails on an optimistic note.
And right now… I’m actually content with what I’ve written.
I’m happy with where I’m at right now.
So here’s an experiment…
Maybe today I’ll just unwind and take this easy option.
If that exposes me as a fraud… I feel kinda fine with that for some reason.
I’ve lowered my expectations for today’s post.
And I’m oddly okay with that too.
I’m completely absent the pressure I usually put on myself to write these posts.
I feel peaceful and ready to end the day, for a fresh start tomorrow.
It feels curious, me taking the easy option.
Is this what happens when you let your imposter syndrome be right?
Now that I’ve stopped resisting it for now, it suddenly seems much friendlier.
And both my imposter syndrome and I are much happier.
I wonder how I’ll feel about it tomorrow.
I’ll end here.
Hope that doesn’t disappoint you too much.
Lucus “hopefully my own price doesn’t crash tonight” Allerton
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Taken 2018-11-25 at 6.13.53 pm