Day 21 of the ‘30 Ways To Play With Your Imposter Syndrome’ Challenge.
I’ll be overly cynical about today’s story, just to make a point.
This means I’m going to be unfair to the baristas, and not give the benefit of the doubt.
(If I do, I’ll lose precious momentum for my petty fake outrage.)
But I hope the point I make at the end is a nice one.
(Bonus: Now I’ve started to understand why people enjoy being outraged. Though in this case I’m being outraged for fun.)
Is your low opinion of yourself really more right than other people’s high opinions?
Weird thing happening to your coffee
“… a new, smaller ‘precision’ range of cups is becoming more popular as the new standard takeaway size in some speciality coffee outlets.
You’d be forgiven for believing that this is all just a ploy to give you less bang for your buck.
However, an expert at a leading specialty coffee roaster and supplier — which has designed a range of the smaller cups — has explained why so many cafes across Australia are joining the ‘precision’ revolution.”
“Michaela Gerard from ASCA Barista Guild — the leading industry body representing the Australian Specialty Coffee industry — told news.com.au the takeaway experience has never lived up to classic experience of dining in with a mug.
And, she says, part of the reason is down to the size of our cups.
‘Unfortunately up until now we haven’t had takeaway cups that match a standard dine in cup or mug,’ Ms Gerard said.
She said it’s only a matter of time before all cafes start serving up smaller sizes in a bid to improve taste.”
“The coffee fanatic says standard dine-in cup sizes are 160ml/200ml which get a single espresso shot topped up with milk — while a mug that is 320ml that gets a double espresso and topped up in milk.
‘This ratio of espresso to milk will give the customers a great balance and harmony of espresso to milk and result in a great tasting cup of coffee,’ she said.
‘This doesn’t translate to take away cups as they are generally about 70ml larger for all sizes which means more milk, and a more milky and less flavour experience.”
“And, although you’re getting more liquid for your buck — you will be compromising the quality of your coffee.”
Sometimes imposter syndrome is arrogance.
Arrogance that you know better than others who praise you.
That your judgement is better than theirs.
That you have the right standards, and they don’t.
That they are wrong, and you are right.
That you are a fraud, despite what others tell you.
Those baristas serving smaller coffee have made the same arrogant mistake.
Did they ask what people liked or preferred?
No they just assumed they knew better.
That people want a different milk-coffee ratio than what they are getting.
That people want a smaller cup of coffee to get it.
These baristas want to serve THEIR idea of perfection. Not ours.
They took their own opinions too seriously, instead of listening to others.
And now consumers will pay the price. The price of takeaway coffee will keep going up, while the size goes down.
Maybe the new coffee will delight everyone.
But maybe the baristas have focused too much on their own sense of taste.
Maybe they’re… WRONG.
And now their customers will lose out as a result.
Don’t let your imposter syndrome force you into that mistake.
Imposter syndrome is like self-esteem…
… it’s only ONE opinion of yourself.
Sometimes what YOU think of yourself is the only opinion that counts.
(Self-validation is great that way.)
But sometimes it’s really not.
I had a very freeing realisation a few years back.
That my view of myself was only ONE opinion.
This meant that I should avoid being arrogant.
I shouldn’t always take my own thoughts that seriously.
I shouldn’t listen too much to my own thoughts.
Including my negative ones.
And that other people’s opinions could be just as true as mine, if not more so.
Which, fortunately, includes their praise!
Imposter syndrome is weird that way…
… you might talk yourself down…
… and have a wretchedly low opinion of your true value…
… but you still give a HIGH value to your LOW opinion of yourself.
Sometimes you might even be RIGHT about your opinions…
… but it’s worth giving other people’s opinions a fair run too.
See what happens when you release yourself from the shackles of your own opinions.
Next time you catch yourself talking yourself down…
… or talking down others’ high opinions of you…
… ask yourself…
… why is MY opinion better than THEIRS?
What if their high opinion of me was better than mine?
What would that say about my true value and ability?
Lucus “I’m so humble I’m not sure I’m right when I say that” Allerton
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Taken 2018-11-20 at 10.19.46 am