Day 16 of the ’30 Ways To Play With Your Imposter Syndrome’ Challenge.
When you trap yourself, let others set you free.
Taylor Swift rumour finally confirmed
“Before the release of her most recent album, Reputation, last year, Swift took a lengthy break from the public eye, somehow even managing to evade paparazzi as she made the record.
As days turned into months without a single Swift sighting, some fans began to ask: Where was the singer? And how was she managing to dodge being noticed in public?
In July 2017, images surfaced showing two hulking bodyguards carrying a large suitcase out of Swift’s New York apartment. Whatever was in there, it appeared to be quite heavy. The picture first surfaced on photo website Splash News, who captioned it thusly: ‘Taylor Swift being transported in a huge suitcase from her Tribeca apartment into her truck, in the trunk.”
Zayn Malik seems to confirm the rumour in an interview:
“She was travelling around in a suitcase,’ he says, eyes agog, of his pal Taylor Swift’s ability to avoid the paparazzi.”
What gets me about this story is the TRUST involved.
If the rumour is true, Taylor confined herself to a small space, and trusted others to safely carry her to freedom.
Maybe she trusted them because they were professionals…
Or because she was paying them…
Or because they would be in a LOT of trouble if things went wrong…
But she trusted them nonetheless.
Do YOU have people like that in your life?
Sometimes when others expand your identity…
… and say you’re better than YOU think you are…
… then imposter syndrome strikes…
… and you try and shrink back from that identity…
… and confine your identity and skill set into a small area instead.
But when that happens, chances are there have been people who carried you through that time.
Who supported you.
Who believed in you.
Who passionately argued against you when you talked yourself down.
And helped carry (or even PUSH) you to something better.
Sometimes you’ve never even MET these people.
Sometimes it’s someone whose work empowers you.
Or a TED talk that fires you up.
Or even a fictional character who inspires you.
For example, one book which turned my viewpoint upside down (and therefore the RIGHT way up)…
… was ‘The Upside of Stress’ by Dr. Kelly McGonigal.
Stress and excitement use pretty much the same hormones in your body.
The main difference?
When you have a positive mindset about your stress, that stress can become much healthier.
Not just mentally, but physically too.
I recommend you check it out. It’s got both stories and science.
Reading that book made me understand that stress wasn’t always a sign of incompetence…
… sometimes it’s a sign of potential growth.
So sometimes I should dig deep into it instead.
A HUGE mindset shift.
I sometimes limited myself and my belief in my skills by what I felt stressed about.
But when I incorporated McGonigal’s advice…
… and trusted what she said…
… her advice carried me much further.
Further than when I confined myself to a box to guard against stress.
And I tried things out I would have been too frightened to try before.
I’m not sure this box-and-carry metaphor still works at this point.
But the point I’m trying to make is…
… if you’re talking yourself and your abilities down…
… to the point of trapping yourself…
… it’s okay, perhaps even fantastic, to seek help and validation from external sources.
Someone you trust to carry you to where you want or need to be.
And like Taylor Swift, that trust can carry you from being confined inside a suitcase in the trunk of a truck…
… to wherever YOU’D like to be. Gloriously free.
Who might do that for you?
Lucus “carry me no more” Allerton
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Taken 2018-11-15 at 12.02.11 pm