Day 15 of the ’30 Ways To Play With Your Imposter Syndrome’ Challenge
But how do you quantify a self-imposed nightmare only being half-over?
(That’s your zen question for today. :-P)
Do people choose you? Even when you think you’re an imposter? That counts for something.
‘Got to be kidding’: $10 item slammed
“The Grounds of Alexandria has built a name for itself as a Sydney institution — a rustic oasis of fresh produce in the Sydney’s industrial inner west.”
“But among the potted plants and livestock, one menu item has deeply disturbed Sydneysider Nick Stoll, who popped in to grab a late lunch with his girlfriend.
He saw a humble bottle of water was being flogged for a whopping $10, and quickly took to social media to express his dismay.”
“However, as the menu shows, this isn’t just any old water. It’s Antipodes mineral water, which can be consumed by customers in either still or sparkling form.
Incredibly, The Grounds has launched a savage response to the critics telling news.com.au it’s “amazing that people have nothing better to do with their time” than moan about water on social media.”
““For those who don’t want to pay for water, we recommend you tap out (if you know what I mean). We have tap water on offer in all of our venues.””
“Antipodes water is typically around $6/litre so it’s not that outrageous at a cafe,’ wrote one commenter.”
“The “soul-refreshing” water is available from Dan Murphy’s for just over $5 — and some of the reviews from customers are glowing to say the least.
“There are so many waters in the world,” one reviewer began. ‘Heaps in the oceans. Heaps spread across the water systems of cities globally. But of all the water, this is the best water.”
When people can be choosy, do they still choose you?
(‘Choosy’ is a weird word to gaze at too long.)
Sometimes we get so caught up in our own self-assessment of our skills that we forget about the views of others.
There’s irony there. Because we’re afraid of being exposed as a fraud. Yet we might discount how highly other people think of us, in favour of our own negative self-assessment.
But on this occasion, maybe don’t worry about what they think.
Instead, look at who they choose.
If other people have a choice of people to employ or get help from…
… and they UNDERSTAND their choices…
… and they continually choose YOU…
… that’s a good sign.
Whatever your self-assessment, these people assessed YOU to be good enough for the job…
… if not PERFECT for it.
People might have various reasons for choosing you.
But they decided you’re worth spending money on.
And that assessment counts for something.
It’s like the $10 water in the above story.
Maybe people bought it because they LOVE Antipodes mineral water…
Maybe they bought it for the sheer novelty value…
Maybe they bought it to keep up with their high-flying friends…
But these people had a CHOICE between the free tap water or the deluxe water.
And they chose the one which had the most value to them at the time.
Or maybe the range of choices made no difference to them.
Maybe they didn’t care whether they spent $10 on water, or got it for free.
(Some people are rich like that.)
Sometimes it’s more important to just MAKE a choice.
But even then, if people are making an informed choice…
… and choosing YOU among a range of options…
… then at minimum, you AREN’T someone they want to avoid.
And personally, I’d take that as a win.
(Or at least a good starting point!)
Example: When I’m employed for music gigs, I know I’m not always the only choice they have.
Sometimes the organiser has plenty of other choices that I know are just as good as me.
If not better.
(And to be honest, that takes the pressure off me sometimes. To know I’m not the only one that can help.)
Yet they choose to go with me anyway.
Sometimes it’s an arbitrary choice.
But at the very least, they didn’t label me as someone to AVOID.
So let me ask: What do people continually choose YOU for?
What’s a skill you’re not certain you have, yet have people keep coming back for more?
This isn’t about what YOU feel confident about.
But about the actions taken by OTHERS, and how that signals their decent opinion of you.
Lucus “I choose YOU (Pikachu)” Allerton
Screenshot proof below:
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Taken 2018-11-14 at 11.33.08 pm