Yesterday I talked about comparing yourself to the PERFECT version of yourself.
Today I’ve gone the other way.
(And here I was looking for FRESH angles… oh well.)
*single tear of regret runs down face*
How do you compare to a real imposter? Probably well.
“KOURTNEY Kardashian has hit back in hilarious fashion after being accused of photoshopping a photo on Instagram.”
“The 39-year-old shared a photo of her and Kim attending the LACMA Art + Film Gala on Instagram but was quickly hit with comments claiming their curves were photoshopped.
Fans also pointed out that Kourtney’s left hand looked rather strange and claimed Kim had used too much Facetune which made her appear “alien”.”
“But Kourtney was clearly having none of the criticism and hit back by posting a heavily edited version of the same photo to Twitter.
With no mistake that this photo had been photoshopped — Kourtney now had a exaggerated arched back while Kim was impossibly slim — fans applauded the shot.”
Scared you’re an imposter? Compare yourself to a REAL imposter.
That’s the trick Kourtney pulled off in her photoshopped picture.
She warped herself and her sister so much, I find the result horrific.
(Am I shallow for thinking that? I hope not. You can see the picture yourself by clicking here)
But once you see that photoshopped picture, the original one looks much more real.
A big part of imposter syndrome comes from how you compare yourself to others.
Whether you compare yourself to people you know, or to a standard of person that you hold in your head.
The thing is…
… if you’re anything like me…
… when we have imposter syndrome…
… we tend to look UP for comparisons.
We fall short of the successful people we look up to, and feel lower as a result.
But don’t forget to look DOWN sometimes too.
Sometimes it might feel like we’re at the bottom.
Until you look down, and remind yourself you could be a lot lower.
There are real frauds out there.
Ones who intentionally deceive.
They don’t just fail to deliver…
Their goal is NOT to deliver.
They can destroy others while benefitting themselves.
Your reaction to those real frauds might be like my reaction to that photoshopped Kardashian picture.
On the plus side though… after seeing that, you look much less like a fraud!
Example: I play piano for choirs and soloists.
I accompany them on the piano.
Sometimes people are kind enough to say how helpful my accompaniment is.
They then compare me to other pianists they’ve suffered through.
Egotistical and arrogant ones.
Completely incompetent ones.
Lazy pianists who don’t do the work needed.
And even if I’m not the best pianist around… I’m glad at least I’m not one of THOSE pianists.
Just like looking both left and right before you cross a road…
… don’t forget to look both up and down before judging your true value.
Once you have an idea of what the bottom of the barrel looks like…
… and you know how to avoid being the worst…
… chances are you’re actually quite okay!
Lucus “needs more photoshop” Allerton
Screenshot proof below:
(You’ll see it only if you have images enabled.)
Taken 2018-11-10 at 2.01.44 pm